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Wednesday, June 5, 2019

Etiquette Tips from 77 years ago




Hi Friends! How is this first week of June treating you?
Today, if you'll indulge me I wanted to deviate slightly from the beauty blog theme. 
Back story; my father and grandmother (both now deceased) used to love to go antique hunting together . It was their "thing". 
One day when I was 12,they came back with this book for me. "Mrs. Oliver Harriman's Book Of Etiquette" , published in 1942.
I have had a fascination with all things from the WWII era #historydork for as long as I can remember. 

The other night, I was looking for something else and stumbled upon this. I hadn't opened this book in years. I started going through it again , boy was it a trip.

There were a few things that were down right offensive (to me at least). Such as this advice that the war effort having women working outside of the home was no excuse to not be domestic. You see , being domestic and bearing children is what we do... yea, this one made me cringe.

There were a few chapters in the book that pretty much only applied to 1940's life. Such as how to best entertain  an entire fleet of sailors at your home.


However, there is quite a bit in here that is just as applicable today as it was when it was written 77 years ago. 
This is the thing, while someone might not notice if you have good manners, MANY people will notice if you DON'T. 
Case in point. I'm now exposed on a somewhat regular basis to someone who interrupts everyone else, talks with a mouth full of food, licks their fingers in lieu of using a napkin and is continually butting into the business of others. 
This person's behavior ends up being discussed in quite the unfavorable light.
Things for sure are more relaxed nowadays. However, there are still standards that we all need to meet in regards to our manners and behavior.

Here is one that I think still applies today. Don't wear garish makeup (We've talked about that before (Read that Here) and don't be obvious when putting makeup on. Don't do it at the dinner table, excuse yourself to the restroom.


Manners at the Opera... Clearly, going to the Opera isn't as common now as it was in the 1940's and 1950's (Still though, its MAGICAL when you do go). These "rules" though, apply to activities that are common place today.
Going to the movies? Don't talk! Don't be texting either. 


A few other my personal "deal breakers" with etiquette are these:

  • Do not talk with food in your mouth
  • Show up on time! If something starts at 8:00, BE THERE by 8:00. Don't come in huffing and puffing at 8:30 with excuses
  • Don't be on your phone while in the company of others. 
  • Be dressed appropriately, i.e no showing up in dirty, wrinkled clothes
  • Don't interrupt or speak over others. Their thoughts are just as important as yours, so wait your turn.
  • RSVP to invitations and write thank-you notes . If someone has the kindness to invite you somewhere or give you a gift, you'd better find the time to respond and thank them.
  • Hold the door for the person behind you
  • Say "please" and "thank you" 
What etiquette standards do you follow? Conversely, what tings do you find rude?
Thank you for taking this time hop back to 1942 with me!


XO,
SheShe





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