Don't be this person...

December 18, 2019 in

It's mid-week babes, we've made it half way!
For many of us, this is one of the busiest weeks of the year. The hustle and bustle is so much better than the lull and dull in January.

Anyway. I'm going to divert from our normal beauty chat today. I wanted to share with you a recent experience that I had.
The week before last, I ended up being in the car for three hours with someone who I has only known on a  acquaintance basis.
From the time that I got into the car, ALL. THIS. PERSON. DID. WAS. COMPLAIN.
They complained about their spouse, they complained about their job, they complained about their siblings, cousins, coworkers. They complained about the weather, their car, their boss, their spouses boss. This person complained about their friends, their child's teachers, the town that they live in, the prices of groceries, the price of a movie ticket. They complained about the format of the local radio station. They complained about the merchandise at the local gift shops.
I could go on about more stuff that this person complained about, but I'm sure you get the idea.
By the time I got out of the car after three hours with this person, I was SO drained. I could physically feel how exhausting it was to listen to this person complain for literally three straight hours.  It felt as if this person had literally sucked the very life out of me. The funny thing was that their parting words to me were "This was fun! we should get together some time!" Meanwhile, I was literally running away from them.

I know that there are folks out there who are truly hurting. I know that there are people who are broken, raw and dealing with loss. That is NOT what I'm talking about here.  I'm talking about people who all in all have a pretty great life, but instead of appreciating it, all they do is complain.

For example, the person who complained for three straight hours has a great job, owns their own home, is healthy and able-bodied, as are their children and spouse. (Not my speculation, this was all confirmed by them.)
So, instead of being profoundly grateful  for their health and other blessings, they choose to spend 15 minutes complaining about something as stupid and insignificant as the price of a movie ticket.

 When somebody is constantly complaining, it’s easy to think that they just have a negative outlook on life in the same way that a pessimist might. The truth is, chronic complainers are a whole different breed. They may not have a negative outlook on life at all, but they still want you to know that nothing is ever quite good enough. Guy Winch, Ph.D. at Psychology Today explains the difference perfectly:
Optimists seeA glass half full.
Pessimists seeA glass half empty.
Chronic complainers seeA glass that is slightly chipped holding water that isn’t cold enough, probably because it’s tap water when I asked for bottled water and wait, there’s a smudge on the rim, too, which means the glass wasn’t cleaned properly and now I’ll probably end up with some kind of virus. Why do these things always happen to me?!

If this is you, oh my goodness friend, work on healing this. I cannot imagine what it must be like to go through life only noticing and focusing on the negative
Sure, that movie ticket might be $15.00. But you know what? The sun, moon and stars are free and oh so mesmerizing. 

I guarantee you that everyone else has trials and hassles, just like you. Just because they are not complaining constantly doesn't mean that they have a life that's free from strife. Perhaps , they are choosing to focus on the positives while you are hung up on the negatives?

If you are the positive type, please do everything you can to protect yourself from these people. You are allowed to have boundaries. Regardless of who these people are in your life, you are under no obligation to let them come "darken your door step".
Truly, I now understand this phrase. 

In positivity and light my loves!



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